First Time Mother by Karen Braganza Pereira

I always knew I wanted to be a mother. Also I was the only one who avoided the topic of babies because the idea scared me. Becoming a mother was a melodramatic shift in my life.

May 2019, I first found out I was pregnant. I freaked out! All I did was ran to my husband who was fast asleep and broke the news to him. The joy and happiness on his face was priceless. That’s when I knew that it was time to step into the next chapter of our lives - being a first time mother.

9 months were full of drama (which I created), food, care and don't forget the unsolicited advices.

Seriously, I sort of thought I would have a magic infusion of motherly wisdom when I gave birth to my 8 month old daughter “Chloe”. Instead becoming a parent was like a tragic movie at first. My heart really sank when my baby was losing her mind, she would cry for everything be it hunger, diaper change and somethings which I am still unaware of. All the unwanted advices had already confused me and I didn’t know what I was doing because everyone would ask me, “Why is she crying?” my inner voice really wanted to say “Hello people, I just don’t know, it’s my first time being a mother and if you don’t know I need help!”

One evening, my husband walked up to me and saw me stressed out and said, “You are doing a good job and you are an amazing first time mother, she is your baby, just do what you want and ignore the rest.” And there was “THE PUSH” I needed, from that day until now I don’t follow the veteran rule book of growing your child. I do it my way! Additionally I learned the art of ignoring all the advices. And trust me my baby is almost 9 months old now and she is completely fine, healthy and a happy child.

So, dear moms, expecting moms and future moms, my mothering hymn isn’t “I am a perfect mom or first time mother” because that’s a ridiculous statement, my mantra is “I am a perfect mom for my daughter.”

And guess what… You are too!!!

About the author

Karen Braganza Pereira is a MBA graduate and works as a content writer for Vodafone Idea. She spends her idle time pursuing hobbies like dancing, cooking and of course playing with her beautiful daughter Chloe.

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